On the passing of a fellow traveler

Anthony Bourdain
Anthony Bourdain (1956-2018)

I sat down to write, cup of coffee in hand, the morning sunlight lapping at my feet. It was quiet, birds singing their summer songs, a slight breeze, and the Dog of Destiny napping beside me. I rocked us gently in the Adirondack-style rocker we’ve both grown so fond of. This was routine now that winter was in the rearview. Soon the rocker (a gift from the in-laws) will be disassembled and stored away for some future date, years and years down the road when finally we decide to leave the rambling life.

I’ve grown to cherish this morning solitude. It’s the only time of late I have to read and write and think, so much of the waking day being now devoted to our exodus.

But I’m finding it difficult to write having heard the news: Anthony Bourdain has died. He was somewhere in France filming his show for CNN. It was an apparent suicide. He was 61.

I never knew him, only knew the man he played on TV. Funny how you can feel a sense of loss for someone you never knew. But maybe I did know him, at least a little bit.

He was a wanderer like me. He was curious about the world. He set out to see it, as much of it as he could with the time he was given. And there was so much to see, an endless horizon of experience.

And the exotic delicacies he tasted in all those far away places, I suspect that wasn’t the point of it. The food was a pretext. Perhaps he never really knew what it was he was after. Or perhaps the act of exploration was an end in itself, a worthwhile pursuit given our limited time in this infinite universe.

He shared with us the great kaleidoscope of the human experience, its many overlapping shapes and colors. What did it mean? To show so many people (most of whom have never ventured very far from home) the world, at once grander and more intimate than they’d imagined?

All the wealth of this world, so little of it can be counted or hoarded by a privileged few, so much of it fleeting, existing solely as experience, and the stories we tell. In this sense, Anthony Bourdain was extraordinarily wealthy. He shared that wealth with all of us.

The sun’s higher in the sky now. The Dog of Destiny wandered off somewhere. I’ve spent the morning hours lost in thought (didn’t even get to working on my novel), but now it’s time to get to my ho-hum list of things to do. It’s miles long, the list, and a matter of weeks until we depart, so I guess I should end things as they are.

Guess I’ve never really been good at endings, nor at saying goodbye.

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